Disenchanted Lovers Share How They Lost Their Crush Instantly

July 12, 2019 | Christine Tran

Disenchanted Lovers Share How They Lost Their Crush Instantly

What good is a love story that ends before it starts? These Redditors came together to share how their crushes snuffed out the flames of attraction before the romance even began. Would-be lovers take not: nastiness, rudeness to wait staff or just plain bad hygiene is death to infatuation. Let us down easy to these harrowing stories of how crushes lost their goodwill in an instant.

1. Broken by the Five-Finger Discount

He would steal people’s tips off the bar counter when we were at a bar together with friends. Then he would offer to buy me food with it. No thank you.

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2. Listen to an Expert, Honey

Not so much a crush, but we were in the initial sentences of the conversation getting to know each other. We were describing to one another what our jobs were. He corrected me on describing my job... stopped right there, said it wasn’t going to work out and ended the conversation…

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3. Too Cool for School

I had a crush on a guy in high school who was a little bit of a rebel. Nothing serious but definitely had a bad boy thing going on. One day in class, the teacher told him to do something minor and he flipped out, basically had a temper tantrum and refused. Totally killed all interest by being a jerk for no reason.

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4. No Flake is Just Like the Other

Said she would turn up on a date, then flaked. Told me she had been called into work urgently. I said ok that’s cool. Second time she flaked again said that she had to tutor someone. Which made no sense because…would you not have that planned?

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5. We’ll Never Reach the Charts

Was driving her and some mutual friends back to the dorms after taking everybody out for an event. Put on one of my favorite songs and she made fun of it. I’m touchy about my music choices, and that was the end of that.

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6. Big Man, Small Ego

We were hanging out at his house when he ‘jokingly’ blocked my way when it was time for me to go and wouldn’t let me pass. I asked him to let me by, when he wouldn’t, I told him I was uncomfortable, and he called me a crazy witch. That was the end of that for me.

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7. The Tough Customer

We were eating dinner out, and he was rude to the server. Told him (we were pretty close friends) it would be nice to add a “please” or “thank you.” He said “Why should I? She’s a waitress (implying he feels superior), and I pay her to do her job.” Instant turn off, and didn’t really want to hang out with him, even as friends, after that incident.

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8. In the Doghouse

A woman I was talking to was recently divorced and had moved back in with her parents. She already had a child and a couple of pets and was talking about getting another pet and her parents told her no, she chose to go ahead and get another pet anyhow and basically her parents began pushing her out the door. And it was a stressful situation for her, and I suggested she talk to her folks.

However, once she told me she was grown and made her own decisions and did not care about their rules, I suddenly understood, and quickly lost interest.

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9. Time Flies When You’re Too Young To Be Serious

I went on two dates with a girl when I was in college. She was wonderful but immediately wanted to be “official” and started drafting Instagram posts about “us.” She wanted to spend every day together and have sleepovers every night. it was so out of nowhere and we literally knew nothing about one another. I tried to look past it, but she asked me to be her first and I got uncomfortable.

She seemed naive and I didn’t want to take advantage. I suggested we take things slow and she took offense. I cut things off and her reaction was super childish. All of this in a 3-week period. Sweet girl but the pacing was off.

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10. Snail Mailed Out of Love

Back in college, I was seeing a girl casually. Whenever we'd text, she'd take hours to respond to any message. It wasn't a big deal since most of the time it was just chatting or setting plans for the following weekend or something. It was a little annoying because it'd take a full day or two to set up plans because of the slow responses, but whatever.

I'm a bad texter so I can't really judge someone for that. But I started to notice that when we hung out together, she'd immediately respond back to any and every text she got. She had some loud song as the ringtone that played for like 15 seconds and set it so that her camera LED would flash constantly while it rang. Totally obnoxious and made me really notice how often she texted.

I casually asked her who she was texting one time and it was just some friend from school that had sent her a meme. After that, I realized it wasn't going to work. Being a slow texter is fine. Constantly texting while hanging out was annoying, but not a deal breaker (especially if we were just chilling at one of our houses). But the realization that this person who was glued to her phone but didn't feel like it was a priority to respond back to my texts made me feel unimportant so I kinda just drifted away.

We stayed friends because we shared the same group of friends and it wasn't awkward or anything. I just stopped trying to do things with just the two of us.

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11. She’s Not Worth the Investment

Met a woman, thought she seemed cool. We went out to eat, she's telling me about how she fell on financial hard times and moved back in with her parents. The way she described it, just sounded like she got unlucky, not that she did anything irresponsible. It happens. When the bill came, I told her I'd pay. She said, "Thanks, I appreciate that, I'm trying to save my money right now."

I said, "Sure, I understand, you want to get your own place again." She said, "No, actually I mean I'm trying to save up $500 for a tattoo I want to get." I've got nothing against spending money on tattoos, but when you've just spent a first date talking about the financial troubles you have, maybe now's the time to start putting money away for necessities, not tattoos.

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12. Bearing All Too Soon

Finally took me out on a date. To a dirty strip club. Not one of the fancy ones, but the smelly gross ones where they clearly don't have high standards for who dances there. I watched a girl get sent home because the oscillating fan that sat in front of her was blowing dirty stank all over the place. He knew all their names and they knew his.

Weak power moves though, because he got mad that most of the girls congratulated him on being able to get me to go anywhere with him and asked him why he took me there instead of some nice dinner. He got mad and took me back to my car. I didn't even have to get upset over the deal because he did it to himself. Never talked to him ever again.

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13. We’d Just Be Out of Pitch

I was crushing on this girl from afar for a while. We were on the same military training base. One day, my friend Drew and I were eating lunch and the place was nearly full. It just so happened that she had come to lunch at the same time, and she and her friend ended up sitting next to us. Drew knew the score and gave me an excited "Good luck buddy!" look.

I was just about to introduce myself: my mouth was open, and the words were about to come out…when she started talking to her friend. Her voice sounded like a high-pitched Roseanne Barr. I closed my mouth and turned to give Drew a "I think we're done here." look, but he was too busy silently laughing at me to notice.

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14. This Relationship—Like You—Won’t Hold Water

True story: took a girl to get her septum pierced. While at the piercing parlor. she said she had to go to the bathroom. Went, and came back out and asked me to step outside with her because she had to make a phone call. When we got outside, she proceeded to tell me she had pooped her pants and we needed to leave. I'd driven us to the shop, so had to drive her about 15 miles back to where she had parked her car.

About halfway there, she pooped herself again. I dropped her off. Went home. Slept on it. Decided not to be a jerk about it; accidents happen, everybody poops. So, we hung out again a couple of days later. We stopped at a store and got out of my car and she asked me if her ass was wet. I looked and said yeah it was. "Oh, I just peed," she said, like it was nothing. I then realized something was seriously wrong and removed myself from that situation.

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15. Someone Needs a Decaf

First friend in college, she sat next to me in English class and we immediately clicked. One day she suggests we go out and study together for finals, and I didn't give it much thought. Turns out she liked me as much as I liked her, so you could imagine my reaction. It was what happened next that changed the mood. Orders a coffee, they make a small mistake and she flips out.

Starts cursing at the cashier, demanding a full refund, and an apology. I sit there confused, this is the same girl who looked shy and reserved when you first meet. She walks out, I apologize profusely and follow after her. She has the nerve to blame them and I tell her it won't work out. The last week was awkward to say the least, she refused to move seats or sat next to me if I moved and acted like I was to blame for not taking her side. Like, no, you don't treat people like that.

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16. Their Tragedy Is His Inspiration

I was living in the university dorms at the time, had a crush on a guy in another dorm. One day I was heading outside and found him posting pictures of concentration camp victims in the stairwell. I was like what the heck, and he got really angry at me for being in my own dorm that he didn't even have access to. Never got an explanation for the creepy pictures.

It came out later that he was also using rock climbing equipment to scale the walls and creep in people's windows, so dodged a huge bullet there.

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17. A Matter of Love and Faith

Had a crush one a girl once in high school, we had a class together and were lab partners, and talked about all kinds of stuff. I was big into rock climbing at the time and she had never been, so I invited her to go with me to the gym one day, she was totally excited... everything was looking great. Then the next day she told me her parents said no because I wasn't Mormon, and unless I wanted to convert, she couldn't go out with me. Yup, that's all it took.

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18. She’s Got an Appetite

Nearly 25 years after kindergarten, my 5-year-old crush came back into my life and again, I started crushing hard. BUT my newer female friends warned me she was a “man-eater,” because she used up and left most of the dateable guys in town at this point. Then I witnessed her stealing the boyfriend of another girl in town, whom she was really close friends with and the fallout of that left such a bad taste in my mouth. Now every time I hear “Man Eater” by Hall and Oates, I think of her...

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19. Not One to Let Them Down Easy

I asked her out over Facebook. Cowardly? Maybe, but in my defense, hadn't ever really asked anyone out before and just...couldn't every time I tried to do it in person. She was also my first crush following the breakdown of a long-term relationship. She said no, that she wasn't interested in a relationship at that point. Ok, cool. Understandable.

That's her right and I wasn't happy about it, but I respected her right to turn me down. Less cool was when she told basically everyone that she knew about it in kind of a snarky condescending way. A friend of mine told me when I got back, and I just wanted to disappear. Folks, you've got the right to tell someone no. If someone asks you out, it doesn't matter who, you are under no obligation to say yes.

But please, if you turn them down, respect their dignity enough to keep it between the two of you. Unless they're being creepy. Then all bets are off.

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20. Reality Is the Best Medicine for a Misplaced Crush

I had a co-worker who I thought was my dream girl. She was gorgeous, funny, kind, had a ton of common interests with me, and was great with her kids, which as a single dad was a huge turn on. So once day, I mentioned something I had read on Facebook and she told me I should send her a friend request, which I did happily.

After getting home, I decided to check Facebook to see that she had posted one of those "Here's all the dangerous, POISONS they put in Vaccines" sheets that has a Minion on it for some reason. I took a look at her most recent posts, and four of her five most recent were anti-vax "facts." She was suddenly the most unattractive woman on the planet.

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21. What Goes Around Comes Around and Isn’t Interested Anymore

I had a huge crush on this girl from my science class. We sat next to each other and got along great. I had a really good feeling she might be into me. Right before I'm about to ask her if she wants to hang out after school, I find out she's been spreading rumors about a less popular girl in the class, that she let the lacrosse team run the train on her in the boys’ locker room after practice one day, and basically ruined this poor girl's reputation.

I never talked to her again and found out later she, in fact, had a crush on me as well. Too bad she turned out to be an awful human being.

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22. Fast Food, Fast out of This Relationship

She chewed out local drive-thru employees for no good reason. I used to live next to this girl. We used to smoke cigarettes, drink beer and take her dogs for walks. I was actually starting to catch feels. She was really pretty and fun, but she was one of those people that talked about herself 95% of the time. One day, we went to get lunch at a Jimmy John's drive-thru.

After she completed her order, she told the JJ employee that the bread had BETTER be fresh. Once she rolled up the window, she told me how stupid fast food workers are and how they never listen. When she picked up her order, she told the employee that the bread had better be fresh or she's coming back. After we drove away, I told her they probably spit in her food.

I lost any and all romantic interest. Fast forward two years later. She's engaged to a millionaire old codger who showers her with expensive presents. So far, she's gotten: a fully loaded truck, several handguns, a Rolex watch, 90k worth of gold coins and a Corvette. She sends me pictures to keep me updated on her wonderful life.

It keeps me up at night knowing such a mean and selfish person is getting rewarded.

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23. Three’s Not Company for Me

So, we were already talking, went on a date and such and were at a stage where we discussed our expectations regarding a relationship. He knew I was bi, so he said that he wants to have threesomes. I told him that that was not going to happen since I don't do threesomes in relationships. He told me, that I would enjoy it, because I am bi and so I have to like it.

I told him that seeing my boyfriend having sex with another woman is something I'd pretty sure not enjoy. So basically, he used my sexuality as an excuse to screw around with other women. Yeah, not gonna happen. Lost interest in him immediately.

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24. Too Colorful for Her

I had this crush on this one girl in high school ever since I was in sixth grade. But due to my social awkwardness and being anxious, I never found the nerve to ask her out or be able to not make an idiot of myself in class when the teacher asks me a question and I clam up like a tight butthole. Anyway, junior year comes around and I finally gained some confidence when it came to talking with people (shout out to my best bro and twin for being the best wingmen), I finally decided after track practice I was going to talk to her.

But as I was walking over to her, my twin brother and best friend pull me back and tell me, "You're not going to like her, trust us." I asked them why that is, and then they explained to me that she only dates white guys and is a "closet" racist...I'm Japanese-American. Dodged a bullet thanks to them.

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25. A Series of Unfortunate Gentlemen

One didn’t know the band U2. I’m not a fan, but I imagined he must have been living under a rock for the past 30 years. One asked me for a ride back home and said he lived close. I set up the GPS and it was 14 km away. I drove him. One was lecturing me about the dangers of vaping. I was vaping. Then went on to tell me all about his weed growing and smoking habit.

One would always say very romantic things during sex and then one time when he grabbed his phone to call an Uber, I saw the last app he used was Tinder. I invited him one time (first time) to come have dinner and meet my parents. My mom was cooking pasta. He went to the kitchen to tell my mom that she was doing it wrong.

The first time I met him, he asked me why I dressed in such a conservative way and like I was much older than I really was. I was wearing tight black leather pants, high heels and a black top.

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26. Manic Pixie Nightmare Girl

She was a cute intern at the company I worked at who I had a small crush on in the first week or so, but she came on so strongly that it was like a semaphore dictionary of red flags. When I realized she was a little intense I started talking to her a little less at work, though I was still perfectly friendly. Some lunch breaks, she would put on earphones and salsa dance seductively by herself in the little break area near my desk.

She was a good dancer, but dude, c'mon. Things kinda culminated when she turned up on my doorstep at 9pm on a really rainy night. I was like what are you doing here, but invited her to come in to get out of the rain. She refused several times, preferring to stand in the pouring rain while she apologized for everything she'd ever done (no specifics) and then went on a rant about how stupid I was for not coming to her salsa dancing classes when she'd invited me.

I was mostly too surprised to respond, but she was doing enough talking for both of us. Then after 10-15 minutes of this, she said "I should get home," turned around, got on her bike, and rode off. Didn't even say goodnight. One of my housemates had awkwardly been standing in the kitchen for the entire thing and had heard her whole spiel, and she was like, "Dude, that girl is about six different flavors of crazy, you were so nice to her.”

It only occurred to me after she left and I was talking about her to my housemate, that I'd never given her my address. To this day I have no idea how the hell she found out where I lived, short of stalking me and following me home. She wouldn't have had access to any HR docs at work, she was just an intern. I actively avoided her at work after that, though she acted like nothing had happened.

When the end of her internship came up and she went back to Germany, she bought me a present. It was an A3 blown up photo of her laying on her front sunbathing topless, which had been her profile picture on her work Skype account until she'd been asked to change it because her manager said it was inappropriate. It came with a really long letter that basically was telling me what an idiot I am for about five pages.

I'm just glad the crush only lasted a week or so and at no point did I start thinking with my member.

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27. Smack Yourself Out Of This Dynamic

She told me that spanking her teenage daughter didn't work, "because it wasn't satisfying enough." A bit of context. This was long ago, and far away, in a European country. The mother was a statuesque blonde divorcee, and the daughter was about 14, and headed for trouble. Corporal punishment was de rigueur at the time, both here and in Europe.

I decided that the situation was hopeless, and noped out of there ASAP. The daughter hated her mother (big surprise) and went on to get pregnant and force her mother to raise the child. I came back to the States and still consider myself lucky to have dodged that bullet.

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28. What Kills a Mood Like a BBQ?

Cute girl in ninth grade, there was a party over at her house, out in the country. Had a big ole crush on her. So, she says they raised chinchillas, and then everyone wants to see the fuzzy critters. There were about a hundred of them, the ammonia smell was unreal. There's a platform with battery cables on it, and I asked what that was for, she said, "Here I'll show you, have some ready to go anyway.”

She grabbed a little fuzzy critter, clamped the cables on it, and threw the switch. Without missing a beat killed that critter. It was bizarre that a teenage girl could electrocute and animal that easily. No more crush, I was actually afraid of her a little after that. It kind of sucked the life out of the party to say the least.

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29. Not Built for the Long-Term

Called me a sexist for pointing out that she was improperly (and dangerously) using a power saw. I mean I get that a lot of guys probably talk down to women using tools, but for God’s sake, she was so close to losing a hand or worse. In her defense, there was a guy there who had been constantly asking to take over what she was doing even when she was doing fine, so I'm sure she was pretty sick of it by then.

There is definitely a lot of sexism towards women doing construction related things. It was the disregard for personal safety that got me.

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30. Turn the Page on His Closed Mind

I went on a date with a guy I met on OkCupid. He was cute, I was into him, it was all good—then we got onto the topic of our respective careers. I was writing erotica for a living at the time, which I told him pretty openly; I might not have put it front and center on my profile, but it wasn't like it was something I was ashamed about or anything.

He laid his hand gently on mine across the table, looked me deep in the eye, and said, “Who hurt you?” I've never straight-up laughed in a guy's face before then, but he absolutely refused to believe that I enjoyed writing about sex just because, rather than because I'd been horrifically abused or whatever. There was no second date.

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31. No One Calls Him Daddy

He was a jerk to his daughter. Had this cute Park Ranger come into my work for help with application letters. One time he brought his very young daughter with him, and she was a normal amount of excitable for a kid her age, but he kept yelling at her. Not in a normal “stop doing that” kind of way, but in a way that was clear he always spoke to her like a delinquent teenager.

She would be doing something mildly childlike like lifting herself up on the table and he'd yell at her to "Get down, quit fidgeting, shut up..." and our area was very child-friendly. I gave her some crayons and coloring books and was glad to learn her mother had custody and he just had visitation.

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32. With This Ring, I Thee Dread

I've told this story before, but when I was about 8 years old, we took a field trip to the Field Museum here in Chicago. During our lunch break, I decided to wander off to the gift shop and see what they had. I had a huge crush on this girl named Victoria in my class and I saw this ladybug ring for a couple of dollars. I knew she liked ladybugs and I had money my parents gave me to buy something at the shop, so I decided to buy the ring and give it to her.

I was really nervous and kept waiting for the right time to do it. I eventually decided to just go for it and walked up to her near the end of the trip. She was with some of her friends which made me more nervous, but I found the courage to do it. She looked at the ring and laughed. Her friends joined her, and she then tossed the ring in the trash.

I was completely devastated and tried hard to hold back my tears. Even though I'm over it now, that completely screwed my confidence with girls for a long time. Looking back, I may have embarrassed her too giving it to her in front of her friends, which is why she reacted that way, but whatever the case, it's probably the most embarrassed I have been in my life and it definitely made me lose interest in her.

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33. High Standards from a Low Place

I decided to confess my feelings to him. And I thought that the worst that could happen was him just saying something along the lines of " I'm sorry I don't feel the same, but I'd still like to be friends.” His exact words were, “Why would I like someone as ugly and fat as you?" His best friend at the time overheard us since he was nearby and laughed about it with him in front of my face while I just stood there shocked for a few seconds.

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34. Love isn’t a Gas

I dated a girl who would burp really loudly and purposefully, blow at me, and say “There’s a kiss for ya!” Bodily functions disgust me, and I asked her politely to please not do that again because it grosses me out. So, she proceeds to do it almost daily for the next week or two before I finally had to end things with her. I know that might sound a little bit petty, but she did it constantly after I repeatedly asked her not to.

I explained to her that I was not one of those guys that found bathroom type humor funny, and what she was doing was turning me off big time. After a couple of weeks, I had lost absolutely any attraction to her that I previously had. I tried to get past it, but I just couldn’t. Not only was it disgusting, but she was deliberately doing something I had asked her not to do over and over again.

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35. The Connection Just Isn’t Magic

Really sweet and intelligent guy, but very sheltered. Taught me how to play Magic the Gathering, which ultimately led to me getting out of a very bad place in my life because I was such a hermit and lived in my depression. I felt like I had a huge crush on him. Quickly learned I didn't have a crush on him, but the attention he gave me. Ended up being for the best.

Another guy at the magic shop gave me his number on a torn-up piece of cardboard. Accidentally put him in my phone with the wrong name. We're married now and have been together for eight years.

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36. A Star Comes Crash Landing

I had a really big crush on a popular musician from the early 2000s. At the time, I was working as a personal assistant for a famous musician of a different genre, and he and his bandmates and friends were constantly giving me flack about having a crush on this guy. Well, crush has a show in the city. At the time, it was pretty standard for any singer that performed in this city to have an after party at my boss' club.

So, the crush shows up. My boss goes out of his way to bring this guy over to meet me. "This is the woman that keeps all this running, and me on schedule. She knows a little about your music." So, I tell the guy that I am a huge fan and start to express how one of his songs had really helped me through a rough time. He holds up his hand to cut me off, and says, "Yeah okay, I get it, I know I am great. So, are we screwing, or not? Because I am not wasting my time when there are hot women here that I could be working on instead."

Boom. Crush gone, and my vagina made the windows shutdown noise. I gave him a slow blink, and popped off, "Well, we definitely won't be now!" And walked off, as my boss and his buddies laughed their butts off at the look on this pretty boy's face.

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37. A DIY Kind of Guy

I had a bit of a crush on a guy I met on a dating app. On our third date, we went back to his place. We made out a bit, but I had made it clear to him several times that I wasn't up to going any further yet. He got frustrated and asked me, "Well can I just masturbate next you or something?" I laughed assuming it was a joke. It wasn't.

He then started to tear up, saying I was being really insensitive for laughing at him. I apologized and quickly left. I then received a big wall of text about how I had led him on and really embarrassed him. As well as calling me some pretty horrible names. Lost that crush real quick.

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38. Throw Out the Whole Man

I was casually dating a 19-year-old guy when I was 18. He seemed totally normal until I met him at his house before a date, and his mom asked him to take the garbage out before we left. He threw a fit that would embarrass most 3-year-olds which included crying, yelling at his mom, and punching the floor. I pretended that my parents were calling and needed me to come home, blocked his number, and never saw him again.

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39. Beauty and the Beast

Coworker at work had just beautiful energy, absolutely lovely to be around. Always smiling at everyone, and she would laugh at my jokes, and she made some comments from time to time that made me feel validated and understood, which was very, very flattering. Like, she guessed my passions in life and told them to me, with a big smile while looking me in the eyes.

I’m a reserved guy who doesn’t share that stuff. All just very lovely. One day we’re in the break room and she’s talking to another guy the same way and I’m consciously talking myself out of being jealous: “You’re not dating or anything you don’t even have her cell phone number. She’s allowed to be lovely with other people now come on no reason to be jealous!”

Then when the guy leaves, she turns to the girl next to her and says, “God, I hate that guy.” And I had JUST been jealous that she was treating him exactly like she treats me. I still feel foolish when I think about it, like does she like me or hate me?

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40. Not a Ladies’ Man

Claimed women were only a sex relief for men and couldn't be as smart as them. Then proceeded to ask me to have sex with him. I asked him if he has a lot of sex. "Yes, of course."I said, "Then you can go ask another girl, because I am not going to have sex with you." We were out. He bugged me two and a half hours—I am not kidding you; it was actually that much time—trying to convince me that having sex with him was going to be the best experience in my life.

I let him talk two hours, even pretended to almost be interested, then at the end of his rant I repeated, "I would rather die a virgin." He was pretty offended. I had a crush on him in high school, and he wasn't like that as a teenager. He was a weirdo, but not sexist at least—and if he was, he made sure nobody noticed. Then we went our separate ways, but I couldn't forget him, so after a year I asked him to meet again and that's what happened.

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41. Excuse Me for Taking a Test-Drive

I don't think this counts as immediately losing interest, for I actually needed some time to notice there were red flags all over the place: Guy and I met in college. Shared hobbies and tastes in music and movies. During this particular instance, when we had just started hanging out with each other's group of friends, I briefly mentioned in front of him and a couple of mutual friends that I had Googled this band he liked and listened to some of their songs.

He straight-up said that it was lame that I was trying to act like him. Skip to a few months later, he asked me out. Took me on a date with his mom. Called that same night to tell me we were going too fast and that we needed to take things slowly. Two days later, said he needed time to think things through because he didn't want to hurt me.

Found out the next day he had been dating another girl the whole time. Ghosted him for a solid three days before he convinced me to talk things out. He said, quote-unquote, that “I was the girl he was destined to marry, but he needed some experience first so that he wouldn't screw things up with me.” Ew.

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42. Cull the Herd (from Your Love Life)

This guy was academic, hygienic, and sweet. Treated waitstaff appropriately. Spoke formally but still funny. Shared things in common w me. Perfect gentleman. Date ended 10/10. While driving me home, at a stop light, pointed to a homeless man crossing the street, said, “I would stop my car for anybody crossing the street, just not homeless men. Where do they have to be? They’re in no hurry.”

Then he added another comment, saying “It’d be funny if I ran him over.”

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43. Well, Look Who Decided to Show up

I had met this girl at a bar and we hit it off. We were making out and all was good. I got her number and we agreed to meet up later. I set up a date with her for a few days later and an hour before the date she canceled on me. A week later, we set up another date and she canceled that one as well just a few days before. At this point, I'm not about to waste any more time and I'm done.

Well, a couple of weeks later, she calls me and says that she is going back with her friends in a few hours to the same bar we met at and that she wants to see me. I say sure, so she asks me to text her before I leave for the bar. I text her and tell her that I'm on my way, and she says that she is too tired to go and is deciding to not go after all. I decide to say screw it and I just go by myself.

Well, guess who I saw show up at the bar a couple hours later with her friends, just having a blast! That was when I instantly lost all interest in her. I sent her a text message calling her out on her BS and informing her that she was a piece of crap. I then blocked and deleted her number. I have not been back to that bar or heard from her since. Here is the really funny bit, though.

That first night, she said that the only reason she didn’t want to go home with me was that I seemed like a ladies’ man and like I probably took lots of girls home with me constantly. The truth is that I was a virgin at the time, but I had just lost a ton of weight and I was finally comfortable with my body and approaching women as a result. I guess I just overshot my confidence this time. Oh well, live and learn!

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