There’s no easy way to break up with someone…but there’s got to be a better way than these methods. Redditors shared the most wicked, hurtful, and downright weird ways their significant others have sent them back to the singles’ market. These tales of emptied apartments, secret love children, and just plain old bad timing certainly made us hold a little tighter onto our hearts (and personal bank accounts). Let us down gently with these shocking stories about the worst ways that humans have called it quits.
1. We’ve Got Ourselves a Runner
He literally ran away. We got back from a gig and I went to put some ice cream in the freezer only to hear footsteps and the door slamming. Ran out and he was legging it down the road.
2. The High Cost of a Broken Heart
We'd been together for three years. She borrowed several hundred dollars from me a week before (knowing the whole time that she was going to do this). When she broke up with me, all she did was tell me that she didn't love me anymore. No discussion, no explanation, nothing. She then kept the break-up secret, moved to another city, mooched off of my friends, trashed their apartment, and nearly killed their dog.
3. This Won’t Be on the Exam
Text in highschool. Threw my phone across the room and it broke against the wall. The substitute had no idea what to do. I was fuming and flipped a desk and walked out. Not a good look for all the other girls in class that I could've potentially gone out with.
4. Inexperience Isn’t a Crime
She told me she had to break up because she was going to jail. Three days later I got a call from a friend of hers saying, "No, she broke up with you because you're a virgin." Years later, she has like three kids and is single again. Karma is like that.
5. Living in an Accelerated Timeline
By not telling me at all. We had been together for three or four weeks, and one day I was just coming home from work, and I saw her walking with another dude. I confronted her in front of him and the conversation went something like this:
Me: "Hey (her name), who's this?"
Her: "Oh, hey, this is (his name), my boyfriend."
Me: "Uhmm haven't we been in a relationship for like a month now?"
Her: "Ugh I guess, but we clearly broke up yesterday evening."
Me: *visible confusion*
We didn't break up that evening; we just had a minor squabble about how we should spend more time together (I was working 12-hour shifts that week). We even kissed when I was leaving her place, and she told me, "I love you.” I was so astounded I couldn't even be mad. Forgot about her in a few weeks and moved on with my life.
6. The Naked Truth
I was 17. He was my first everything, pretty much. Eight months into the relationship, lying naked in my bed, he says, "I don't love you. I never did. I just wanted to have fun." I'm almost 30, and I'm over it, but I still wonder what the heck made him do that.
7. Not Willing to Do the Heavy Lifting
By making me do the break-up for him. He slowly withdrew emotionally and started to become increasingly irritable and inconsiderate. If I brought up any of these issues, he would act insulted at how I could think that of him, or say/imply maybe it was my fault for not being considerate enough of him and what he was going through.
It was so slow and incremental; it took me a long time to figure out we weren't going through a "rough patch." Or he wasn't having a hard time that I needed to support him through. With my last remaining crumb of energy and self-esteem, I did what he wanted all along and did the breaking up for him, I broke my own heart.
He screamed and insulted me, stole a bunch of my stuff, and later I found out he gave me the kind of HPV that gives you cancer (which I did get, but was treated).
8. A Long-Term Relationship is Worth Long Distance Calling
Dated a guy for one month short of three years. Everyone, including me, thought we’d be a forever couple. He talked about engagement and marriage within the first eight months—right up to A WEEK before it all ended. We were lying in bed, and he told me, “I can’t wait to be engaged by this time next year.” Fast forward a week. Everything was normal, we went on a nice date night, he spent a couple nights at my house, and went home.
Everything seemed fine. We texted like we always did for a few days, until he said he needed to discuss something. Long story short, he texted that he needed a break. I said I understood and would respect that. A week later he calls me and says, “You aren’t going to like what I have to say.” I asked if he was breaking up with me and he said yes.
Dated for almost three years, and you break up over the phone? I asked if there was a reason. “I haven’t loved you for the past six months.”
9. Should She Stay or Should She Go?
Dropped around to my place hours later than she said she was going to on a Saturday, which was a common theme with her. Sensing I was annoyed despite me trying to deny it, she hits me with, "No, I think you're upset because you know I can't be your partner anymore.” Okay...that's news to me, but okay...so we talk about it for the rest of the afternoon.
It's now Saturday night. We hang out. She stays the night. She initiates sex. We fall asleep. She hangs around on Sunday...all day. It's now Sunday night. No sex, but we sleep together. I wake up on Monday, leave her in my house and go to work. I get through work, go home, and she's STILL THERE. I'm confused as heck at this point and tell her kindly that I might need a bit of alone time to process things and she gets offended.
Weirdest and saddest weekend of my life.
10. A Tale of Two Babies
This was many, many years ago... Lying in bed post-sex, and as we were both in a loving mood, I tell him that I’d found out that day I was pregnant. He kind of laughs, I ask what was so funny and he says, “Kerry told me today she is pregnant” (he was 21 training to be a chef; Kerry was 18 and just starting training to be a chef).
I asked why that was funny and he says it’s because it’s his. I got up, got dressed and went home. Spent days crying on my mum's shoulder. Two months later, they got married, Her parents had insisted. He and I had been together just over a year (he had been seeing her for a month on the side). My daughter is the absolute love of my life, he decided to cut all parental ties with her before she was born.
Kerry and her parents wanted it that way. My mum was an absolute rock for me those first few years.
11. The Meet the Parents Franchise Gets Dark
His mom made a birthday meal for me. The night before the meal, he verified what kind of cake and frosting I wanted to have. The day of, he was being dodgy over text about not wanting to go his parents' place to eat. Since I knew they made a special dish just for me, I showed up on the time we had agreed to beforehand.
Barely five minutes after I arrived, he showed up in a state of distress. He accepted a phone call from his ex-fiancé and left me with his parents for ten minutes while talking to her in a different room. When he got off the phone call, he came over to me, looked me straight in the eyes and told me, "This is a nightmare."
I got up and thanked his parents for preparing the meal (that hadn't yet been served) and asked him to come outside with me. He dumped me on the driveway of his parents' house at my own birthday celebration.
12. And They All Lived Never After
Waited til I was at work. Him and my coworker, who had met the night before when I introduced them, decided they were in love. They went in my apartment and stole some of my stuff. She stole my clothes and they moved into a tent together. He then got her pregnant. One day, he had his friend call me and ask if he could come back.
She was now on drugs and not taking care of their baby. He wanted me to take him and the baby back. I said you ever call me again, I will call your girlfriend and tell her. Never heard from him again.
13. We’ve All Juggled Multiple Chats
He picked me up to stay at his place for the night. Then, he spent the entire night on MSN talking to some other girl right in front of me. When I mentioned that it was a bit messed up, he said he'd be done in a minute and asked me to get him a drink and he'd shut the computer off. When I came back upstairs, he'd locked his bedroom door.
I knocked and asked him to let me in he told me to shut up and that he was trying to sleep. I asked him to take me home and he ignored me. I only had a couple of quid on me until the next day (payday) so I couldn't afford a taxi home and it was too late to get a bus back to where I lived. Too far to walk as well, so I just went and slept on his couch, no blanket or anything, so I was freezing. About 2 AM his alcoholic mother came crashing in and sat on me.
I wouldn't have stayed with him after all this BS, but I think he was definitely the one who initiated this entire scenario. We weren't together that long really so it didn't bother me too much, but it was still a horrible way to get canceled.
14. The Heart Sometimes Lies
"I never loved you, I don't love you, and I never will. You're not worth 10 seconds of my time." This was after a year of telling me I was #1, that he loved me and would always love me, that I was the one person he wanted to talk to every single day. He had never felt this way about anyone before, he'd take a bullet for me, his heart would beat so fast and hands would sweat when he was with me because he was nervous, he promised forever, etc.
He swore on his mother's life, he swore to God, etc...then we had sex, he gave me genital herpes and ghosted me. He was the second partner I've ever had, and I used condoms with the first. Anyway, when I cried and begged for an explanation, that was the response. I spent the next year literally crying every single day, multiple times a day.
15. Set Up to Fail
Pretended to be upset with me because of something I said, made it escalate into a fight, and then broke all contact with me. A few weeks later, one of her friends told me she was seeing someone else and didn't know how to break it to me, so instead, she just framed it as if I messed up so that she had a reason to break contact with me.
16. Keeping This One Would Be Worse for Your Health
I was sick in bed. He said he was coming over to drop off some of the stuff that I left at his house on his lunch break. He comes in, wakes me up, and says he is dumping me. I’m naked, blind (no contacts), and confused. I ask him if we can talk about it, and he replies, “No, I’m on my lunch break, I have to get to work.” Leaves his key and leaves.
Later that evening, I am taken to the hospital and diagnosed with appendicitis and scheduled for an appendectomy. Oh yeah, he accused me of faking being sick. He’s a jerk though, I lucked out big time.
17. A Matter of Public Interest
So, I broke up with someone. I was at university, and I knew the whole time he was cheating on me. I went home for my sister’s birthday, wanted to devote myself to both my sisters and took them for a meal. He turns up and started telling me that he felt like he wasn’t a part of my life because I didn’t invite him to my sisters' meal.
I got a call from my best friend, her breaking down on the phone telling me that she was having a miscarriage, so when we had finished the meal I went straight up there. I stayed the night at her place because she was hysterical. I got texts the whole time saying how I prefer to see my sisters and best friend more than him, I explained that I had reason to see my friend and reason to see my sisters.
He had stayed at my parents the whole time, and the next day he forced himself on me for not wanting to have sex and that the reason for this is that I “must be cheating on him.” I spent the next day in my room crying while he sat with my parents, I jumped on the opportunity of getting back to uni a day earlier than scheduled.
My friend J knew something was wrong, I told him everything, he got all of our friends together in my flat and they all sat around me while I called him and broke up with him. They listened to everything he said to me, telling me I was cheating on him, how I was only with him for money (he was jobless and technically homeless), and generally manipulating me. The phone call ended, and all of my friends cuddled me.
I then got a call from my dad, accusing me of cheating and that I was not a good daughter and didn’t talk to me for about a month. My ex still comes around, still tells people we’re together even though it’s been over two and a half years. I’ve now been in a relationship for over a year, but no one knows because everyone loves my ex and no one can be as good as him.
I went to see a counselor because of all of this and she just said "Damn..." and that she couldn’t help me. It’s the most horrific breakup because it’s just still happening. I’m over it. Everyone else isn’t.
18. Don’t Save the Date
Background: we were both in our 40s. Cheated on me (only found out three years later when she posted the date of her anniversary with him) and ended it with me to go out with him because he was all excited to get married to her. I wanted to wait until her kids from a prior marriage graduated from college. They were engaged a little over a year later.
Funny ending. Since we were never married, but I was providing significant financial support to her, she lost all access to any of my income after she ended the relationship. My guess is he discovered after two or three years that he had made a mistake because he refused to set a wedding date. Around the year that we were originally scheduled to get married, they broke up.
19. Gone, Baby, Gone
He acted like we were nothing. He developed a real nasty attitude towards me. When I had enough and asked him why he was treating me this way, he finally cracked. He got another girl pregnant and didn't know how to tell me. He figured that if he pushed me away then he wouldn't have to do it. It only hurt even more.
20. I’ll Transfer Your Call
She had her stepsister call my parents’ phone (didn't have a cell phone then) to break up with me. Except my dad answered so she told him it was over. He simply said, "I think you want to talk to my son." Looking back, I think it's hilarious.
21. In It for the U-Haul
I was 21, came home from work and everything was gone. She left a milk crate, the tiny tv, a trash can, and the box spring to the mattress. I didn't actually know that she left me, so I called the cops and told them that someone stole everything, including my girlfriend. I was pretty hysterical, but the 911 operator was able to calm me down and inform me that my girlfriend most likely left me.
22. No Trading in for an Older Model
After three years, my girlfriend decided to tell me that the only reason she was with me was that she loved my older brother and wanted to come over to see him. My brother had no idea and was just as mad as I was.
23. Bon Voyage!
Not me, but a girl I know married a guy from another continent. They'd been living together for a few months when she came home from work one day to find all his stuff gone. She couldn't figure out what happened to him so eventually called the police, they investigated and informed her that he'd boarded a flight back to his native country.
24. Taking a Page from The Book of Homer
An email that said, "Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you." Funny on The Simpsons, less funny in real life.
25. Apologetic at the Altar
Four weeks before our wedding, having to do the breaking up for him because he just sat there hanging his head not saying anything but "I'm sorry" and occasionally wiping his eyes as if he was crying, but his eyes were totally dry.
26. No Good Can Come From Santa
This was Christmas 2014. It was a long-distance relationship, so she drove out to see me. It was December 23rd, and I was flying back to Virginia to visit family. I left VA the year before. So, she was with me for the week, then she took me to the airport and drove home. When we got out of the car, I told her I loved her and she said it back, we kissed, hugged, had sex, then I left.
I land in Virginia, and I get a text from her saying it's over because my dad makes a lot of money and we just grew up in two different worlds. Fast forward to Christmas 2015: I’m with a girl who lives like five miles away from where I live. I just had a gut feeling things were going to end while I was in VA for the holidays. The day after Christmas, she breaks up with me.
I've learned one lesson from this, don't go to Virginia for Christmas.
27. Logged Onto Another Account
Took her to a club; she left with a friend of a friend. Years later, we decided to give it another go. Lived together, the whole nine yards. Eventually, we ended up engaged, and she said she didn't want to do anything sexually til we were married. I was fine with that...until she cheated on me with some random dude from Yahoo chat. I called her up and said, "You have a half hour to get your stuff and get out." Haven't spoken to her since, and that was in 2004.
I am now happily married (to someone else) just celebrated my 10-year anniversary.
28. Not Every Heartbreak is a Matter of Human Resources
Obligatory “not me,” but a close friend got dumped in a way that was so spectacularly awful I can’t not mention it. Said friend ended up in a relationship with a co-worker. I only met the guy once, but he was a bit...off. Early thirties and had never moved out of his parents' house, while the person he was seeing was just newly 18 when they started.
Anyway, everything was fine with them at first, and then one day she just stopped hearing from him. Turned out he had decided he wasn’t keen on the relationship. Unfortunately, he got advice from some utter psychopath (I’m reasonably sure it was one of his parents, as he didn’t have any other friends, but can’t be sure) on how to do so.
So, he decided the best way to dump her was to accuse her of sexual harassment. She got a meeting with HR, which was pretty unpleasant as you can imagine, and it turned out he had come out with a bunch of pretty horrific allegations. She almost lost her job, and everyone assumed she was a predator for a while, which drove her to some really dark places.
It all blew over when it became apparent his accusations were all bull because he kept on changing his story, coming out with details that didn’t make sense, and at one point sexually harassing her while this was all going on. I believe he was fired, and she never heard from him again, but it’s taken her a long time to recover from it.
It’s been about four years now and I’m still genuinely aghast at it.
29. Playing House While You Were Away
We had been dating for two and a half years. I bought a plane ticket to Seattle for him (we lived in NY), so he could go visit his family because he hadn't seen them in a while. When he left, a week later he said he was going to stay another two weeks because his grandma wasn't doing well. Two weeks turned into a phone call while I was at work (taking care of a special needs girl), saying he knocked a chick up and wasn't coming back.
30. Doctor’s Orders
Back in college, I had a girlfriend break up with me through my therapist. Came to therapy and was told by the therapist my girlfriend didn't want to see me anymore. I told the therapist how unprofessional this was, and then broke up with my therapist.
31. Something Else Needs an Extraction
I was in 11th grade. I had just got my tonsils out. That hurts by itself. But the medicine they gave me made me throw up and that made my mouth hurt even worse...So, my awesome grandma, who was taking me home from the hospital, sees that I'm having one of the worst days of my life, and takes me to get an ice-cold smoothie to help my mouth. I get my smoothie and take the first drink. Sooo good.
And then I get a text. It was my awesome girlfriend. But this wasn't an awesome text. She told me...over text...that she was leaving me for this other guy and that she never wants to talk to me again. So out of the blue. Or maybe I'm just oblivious. Either way, I couldn't truly enjoy my smoothie and my bad day got worse…
Bonus: a week later she sent me a picture of them having sex. I punched a hole in my wall.
32. You’ll Always Be Third in This Equation
He cheated on me with another guy. And being as blinded by love as I was, I told him I'd take him back. Apparently, people that had seen them together talked and he went ahead and blamed it all on me. He made sure to make me look like a jerk when, in fact, I was the only one on his side. After all this he said she said stuff, I finally told him: "If you love me, let's make this work."
His response? "You're so immature." I was so hurt. What hurt me to my core was that a week before stuff went down, he had come to talk to my dad to ask for my hand in marriage. Two weeks after the "you're so immature" conversation, I found out he had been engaged the entire time he was dating me. His fiancée just happened to live in Colorado. Less than a year later, they got married.
It took me freaking years to move on.
33. Love is Bad for Your Furniture
I kind of did the breaking up, but the reaction I received was definitely what I'd class as the worst break-up I've had. I had only dated this girl for two weeks, but things were moving rather quickly for my liking. She had already thrown out the "L" word despite us having only ever made out, not even had sex and had only been on two dates.
We were on the couch at her place with her straddling me and making out, she kept repeating how much she loved me, and I freaked out. I told her I think we need to slow down and get some space in an attempt to control the pace of the relationship a bit. I didn't want to break up with her though as she was hot and fun to be around.
She responded incredibly well to that, saying she understands and, “Would you like some space now?" to which I replied, "I would, but I still want to continue the relationship, this isn't me breaking up with you I promise.” Her head sank a little and her eyes saddened as I got up to leave and I reassured her I definitely wanted to continue the relationship just at a slower pace. I reached the living room door to exit the room and a lamp hurtled past my head smashing against the wall.
I had no freaking clue what was going on, as two seconds ago everything seemed civil and calm. I just started whipping my head back and forth between her and the smashed lamp, trying to process what the heck just happened. Evidently, I was now the target for a closet lunatic. She sprinted across the room towards me at alarming speeds and jumped, extending her knee towards me and directly making contact with my chest.
This 5'4" 95-pound girl took me out (6'1" 190-pound) with one swift move, sending me onto my back as she landed on top of me. I put my hands on her shoulders to push her up and off of me but she latched on to my beard with one hand and shirt with the other, aggressively pulling on both. Despite my pushing her harder and harder, she would not let go of my beard.
I made the only decision I could think of at the time that would successfully get her to stop, so I grabbed her boob and twisted. This understandably shocked her, so she let go long enough for me to give her a proper shove up and off of me and I ran out the door. She didn't pursue me out of the house, thank god, but the following day she texted me as if nothing happened after the conversation about taking things slow. She says wants to continue dating as well and agreed we should take things slower.
Naturally, I responded with, "Screw this, I'm out" and I didn't hear from her for two weeks, after which, at 2 o'clock in the morning, she drunk-bootie called me. I'm not proud of myself, but I hadn't had sex for about six months prior to this, so I obliged.
34. Breaking My Heart and My Bank
She asked me to buy her a few gifts. I got them and dropped them off at her place while she was at work. When she got home she said thanks, but she had been doing some thinking and felt it was time we saw other people. But at least she said thanks.
35. I’m Taking All of You With Me
When I was in Korea, my wife at the time told me over Skype that we'd drifted apart and she wanted to separate. So, she takes the powers of attorney I had given her, packs up everything out of the house that she wants, regardless of who it belongs to, uses my bank account to pay for the U-Haul and all the moving expenses, sells the house, has one dog put to sleep, takes the other to the SPCA, and disappears.
Eventually I learn that she'd been planning to leave ever since I came down on orders. Oh, and she was a textbook psychopath and a compulsive liar. By the way, she actually never had (and beat) cancer before I met her. For SEVEN YEARS I kept asking her to see the doctor and make sure she's still cancer-free. I've seen people I love die from cancer and it's horrible.
FOR SEVEN YEARS she'd lied to me about having had cancer and watched while I worried myself sick about it coming back. So glad to be rid of that lunatic.
36. Listen to Mother Nature
When I was about 11, my best friend and I lived in the same village and he was dating a girl who lived about half a mile up the road. He told me he wanted to dump her, so he invited her to meet him at the spot where we would hang most evenings after school. He and I hid in a nearby hedge until she arrived. He shouted from the hedge, "You're dumped.” Her face turned red, she started to cry, turned around, and walked home.
22 years later, he still feels guilty.
37. Worth Making the Distance to Keep the Distance
She traveled five hours by train to see me...only to get my house and say that she doesn't love me and that she wants to break up. She leaves, I cry for about 15 minutes then call my best friend and ask if he can come over with some beers so I'm not home alone all weekend. I hear her in the background asking him something.
Yup, she traveled five hours to break up with me so she could screw my best friend without feeling guilty about it (I no longer talk to him).
38. Ask for a Doctor’s Note Next Time
Was with her for just shy of two years. Holidays, festivals, discussions of marriage the lot. Claimed she lived at home with her mum, who had terminal cancer, and as a result, her mum didn't want to bring anyone new into her life, as the pain of knowing she would soon leave them was too much. Therefore, we spent all our time at mine, and I never met her family or mum.
Received a message from a guy one night asking how I knew her. I explained the whole story. Turns out her mum was fine, and she had been engaged to this guy and living with him the entire time...they were due to get married in two weeks. It still blows my mind that she managed to play us both so well the entire time.
(So technically, I guess he kind of ended it by revealing the truth, lol. I just wished him the best of luck and cut all ties immediately. I didn't give her the satisfaction of letting her know she had hurt me).
39. Let’s See Other Patients
She cheated on me with five different women in 10 days. Whilst I was in the hospital. Having brain surgery. She dumped me two days after I came out of hospital, while at her parents' house, on Christmas Day.
40. Watch Out Where You Put a Ring On It
High school. I'm dating a guy who is out of high school. I worked at a Dairy Queen. A girl from my school comes through the drive-thru. As I'm handing her the order, I see that the very distinct ring I gave my boyfriend is on her finger. I have to admit: it took me a minute because I was confused about how she could have this ring. I finally snapped to and asked her, "Did Bob give you that ring?"
She said yes and how did I know? "Because I gave it to him. He's my boyfriend." She immediately took it off, gave it to me and left. A few minutes later my "boyfriend" comes flying in the door and starts yelling at me for "getting him in trouble." Yeah, I know how to pick 'em. As he continues to yell at me, I'm just staring at him with all the anger that's in me.
A friend of his (Mike) happened to be sitting in the dining room and Mike comes up the counter and whispers something to Bob. They both go outside. Bob comes back in and sheepishly says, "Mike said if I didn't apologize to you, he'd beat my butt." I have to admit having Bob's friend, Mike, who I barely knew, stand up for me was one of the best things that ever happened to me.
And yes, Mike and I started dating. He was a really nice guy.
41. A Match Made in Malpractice
Started by showing up while I was in the hospital and saying they would give me a ride home, so my foster-mom went home. Then stormed out after sitting with me for hours and telling my doctor I didn't need pain meds. Why did he storm out? My exam was "too sexual" for him. He couldn't handle that my doctor was a man, but also laughed at the idea of a female doctor.
Came back two hours later after I finally cracked and asked for meds. Right as the doctor came in with the meds. Yelled at me for being weak and putting poisons in my body. Stormed back out. Never came back, and the next day texted me to say that my health was too stressful for him. Then showed up at my house while I was at a doctor's appointment. He then accused me of cheating on him because I wasn't home.
He also cheated on me. Probably a lot. And assaulted me, which led to some of the health problems I was dealing with that day. Overall... I hope you crash the piece of crap motorcycle you planned on using to take me home.
42. A Heart is Not a Home
I was dating this girl for about half a year, she moves out of town. She keeps asking me to come live with her because I'm not in a good situation where I currently live. After one really bad weekend of intense, depression-fueled pain killer use, she drives down and, along with some friends, convinces me to move in with her.
I pack all my stuff that day and go to her place for a week to find a job, on the condition that I go back for two weeks to finish up my job and get paperwork and stuff in order. Roommate is mad as hell, makes me leave my dog to him. I get there, and the whole week she's a completely different person. Unaffectionate, rude, meaner than I ever have seen her.
I remember quietly crying the last night I was there, not knowing what I was going to do. She then tells me that I can't leave any of my belongings with her because her family will be visiting and her dad still pays for her apartment, so I have to take it all back to my hometown with me for the two weeks til she breaks it to her family.
So, I drag all my stuff back to my hometown and crash with my coworker for what's supposed to be two weeks. At the end of the first week, she calls and says I can't move in with her anymore because her dad will stop funding the apartment. Fine, whatever, I'm mad but it's not her fault so I decide I'll look for a place near her that's affordable.
I end up stuck in my hometown for over a month trying to find a place and a job near her, all the while she's blowing off all communication with me. One night I end up getting drunk and she calls me. Dumps me two minutes into the conversation. So now I'm homeless (the coworker I'm staying with is moving at the end of the month), and broke, and alone.
Eight months later, I'm living with my aunt, four hours from my hometown, and I just managed to get a job. I've never felt more lost or been more hurt by anyone, including the relationship I was cheated on in.