It is a truth universally acknowledged that the moment certain women get engaged, a change comes over them, transforming them from your friend/family member into a wholly different creature known only as…Bridezilla. A Bridezilla is a bride-to-be who becomes demanding, self-centered, and difficult to deal with, and who will go to any lengths to ensure she gets the wedding of her dreams. From screaming fits to making insane demands, Bridezillas take crazy to a whole other level. A Reddit thread asked users to relay the biggest Bridezilla moment they’ve ever witnessed, and boy did they deliver. Below are stories about Bridezillas that will make you run for the hills the next time someone you know utters the words, “I’m getting married!”
42. Not in the Picture
I’m the Aunt of the Groom. The Grooms’ Granny (my and the Groom’s father’s mother) paid for the wedding. I still don’t know why this happened, but out of 600+ wedding pictures, I was not in 1 of them…not 1! Yes, there were the traditional pictures with family afterwards, but not 1 member of my family…mother, brother, son or daughter said anything about me not being there.
I brought the Grandmother of the Groom to the wedding, and at the ceremony, there was a seat for Granny up front; me..I had to sit on the back row, and seat myself. Very hurtful and still don’t know why. When I asked family members why didn’t they say something, I get a lot of “well, it was just so confusing!” The Groom does have some mental health issues, but still, this is the bride’s domain.
41. Were We Boring You?
I was 17 and my dad was marrying a terrible woman. She made my brother and I walk my dad down the aisle. No big deal, whatever. When the wedding was over, I was summoned to her hotel room so she could scream at me that I looked bored when I was standing next to my dad, and I ruined her whole wedding.
She then proceeded to tell me that I was not allowed to live with her and her children at her house, and had to live at my dad’s house alone where he would visit me on weekends. Five months later, my dad took me out to get Chinese food and to tell me they were getting a divorce.
40. They’ll Wait
A good friend of mine found out her friend was major bridezilla. Originally, she told my friend that she would arrange for her to get picked up at the airport and have a place for her to stay since it would cost her a lot of money to stay somewhere in NY. Two weeks before the wedding, she changed the date of the rehearsal and forced my friend to change her flight (costing her over $400).
When my friend landed in NY, she called the bride, who proceeded to tell her that she’s too busy and to figure things out for herself. My friend had to book a room at the last minute and call a cab to get there. The day before the wedding, the bridesmaids still didn’t have their dresses because the bride didn’t pick a dress for them until the day of the wedding….
The day of the wedding, the bride was running 3 HOURS late doing stupid stuff. Her friends and family reminded her of the guests waiting for her at the ceremony, but she just said “well, the wedding can’t start without me” and left her guests there waiting on a rooftop in NY for 3 hours (note, everyone is super dressed up, so not in comfortable attire to deal with the heat).
After the wedding, I believe they stopped talking because my friend realized the bride was a spoiled monster.
39. It’s the Wrong Shade
I worked for a florist setting up weddings when I was 15. I was the lowest person on the totem pole. I had no control over any aspect of the work and I was a grunt.
I was setting up a wedding with hideous pink and sparkly decor. I remember it pretty distinctly. It was at the art museum on a Saturday. The venue cost $10,000 to rent, so the bride and groom had money. I was alone at the museum because I couldn’t drive yet, and I was frequently abandoned. Everything was ready for the reception.
The bride came in and started crying and screaming about how the pink wasn’t the right shade and her wedding was ruined. According to the contract she signed with my boss, she had to have seen an example of the work she was getting and approved it. She approached me (15-year-old me hiding behind a column because I didn’t have anywhere to go) and started screaming at me for ruining the wedding. I hadn’t made a single arrangement there. I had no idea how to respond except to say I was sorry.
38. You Can’t Be Prettier
The bride asked her friend (who wasn’t even part of the wedding party) to remove her makeup because it was “prettier” than the bride’s. The bridesmaid even handed said friend a wipe to get rid of it all. The friend chose to leave the wedding instead because she was too shocked and offended by the gesture. I think the bride eventually apologized but the relationship has chilled since.
37. You’ll Make Us Look Fat
A good friend didn’t want me in her wedding because I’m thinner than her and her other friends. We aren’t really friends anymore.
A wedding invite from a friend of a friend said tattoos had to be covered, piercings taken out, minimum amount of a cash gift, and most annoying of all…she asked people to LOSE WEIGHT. This was two months before the wedding.
You can bet I just tossed the thing out in trash when it came in the mail.
35. You Should Have Gone First Class
When I was about thirteen I was flying with my folks to visit family in Hawaii. While we were waiting for our flight, I overheard a woman throwing a temper tantrum to the desk agent.
She kept going on and on about how she was the bride and how she needed to be upgraded to first class or it was going to ruin her honeymoon. Screaming, crying, like full on toddler style temper tantrum. It’s like, hun, the wedding is over. You don’t get to be Bridezilla after the wedding. If it was so important that you be in first class, you should have purchased a first-class ticket.
34. Pretty People Need Not Apply
A bride told me she didn’t want me in her wedding because she thought I would look better than her on her wedding day. She only asked people that wouldn’t look better than her during the wedding.
33. Will You Please Come Out?
My sister’s boyfriend’s sister was getting married and my sister came to their house early to help her into the dress. They came out of a room at the same time, and the father of the bride wasn’t able to see his daughter clearly, so he told my sister that she looked beautiful that day. The bride got offended because she thought her father had ignored her for my sister, and they had to spend an hour trying to coax her out of the room she locked herself into to cry and scream.
32. It’s My Way or the Highway
I have a friend who took out a $7,500 loan for her wedding. Then she asked her fiancé to take out a $25,000 loan. (Forced him, really, by saying she’d leave him if he didn’t.) He had much better credit and he got the loan. Then she begged his parents to pay for their honeymoon. His parents were completely unaware that she had asked their son to take out a loan for the wedding. They thought her parents were paying for a modest outside wedding at a local garden and she repeatedly lied to them until a few weeks before the wedding. She kept threatening to leave her fiancé if he didn’t do things the way she wanted them done.
Anyway, his parents were so happy to pay for a cruise for their honeymoon. A really, really nice Alaskan cruise. But, that wasn’t enough for her. She then lied to her own parents, saying that his parents were only giving them $250 for the honeymoon. Her parents were shocked by this as they were paying for the wedding and reception and thought the groom’s family would at least pay for some of the honeymoon.
They encouraged her to get a better job (she worked 20 hours a week as a receptionist at a nail salon) or to at least go full time at her current job and she flat out refused, saying that she had so much to do in planning for the wedding/honeymoon, etc. She was an absolute nightmare. They got divorced 14 months after the wedding.
31. Do Exactly as I Say
The woman who married my BIL. The highlight of her bridezilla moments (and there were many) was sending out a 4 page, front and back letter to all the members of the wedding party regarding what exactly was expected of them. This included exactly how much they were to spend on gifts for the couple (basically, “Oh, don’t go nuts, tee hee…But it had better NOT be too cheap!!”), expected dress code for everything from informal meet ups to decide wedding attire and favors to the stag/bachelorette parties, for her bridesmaids to lose weight, hair styles, cut and color had to be approved by her, and how they were to behave at all times.
This was to a group of punk rock, anti-establishment kids with tattoos, colored hair, and leather galore. This was not unknown to the bride, as she claimed to be part of that scene herself.
She actually demoted the best man the night before the wedding and “moved up” another of the groomsmen because she felt the original best man (one of the groom’s oldest and best friends) wasn’t “pulling his weight” and doing things the way she wanted. This despite him honestly trying and being on his best behavior for everything, even though he had never been a fan of this girl.
And that’s just the tip of the bridezilla iceberg. The marriage did not last.
30. That’s the Wrong Tie
The Bride slapped her husband and left him at the altar because he was wearing a red tie instead of a bright pink flowery one that she wanted all the men to wear to fit in with her “pink princess wedding.” She told him in a text that he had “ruined her special day.” Only her nephew was actually wearing the tie, and he was one years old.
29. Just Mail It
My good friend was getting married, and I was meeting her for lunch. She had mailed out RSVPs with stamps included for people to mail back. I called to coordinate meeting up, and said “oh hey, and I have my RSVP right here, I can give it to you.” She flipped out because I would be wasting the stamp they bought. “Dude, just put it in the mail like you’re supposed to!” She was dead serious and furious that I would waste the stamp. I still brought it so I could drop it in the mailbox while I was thinking of it. She literally stood there and watched me put it in the mail, addressed to her…
28. Yours Are Better Than Mine
I had a friend flip out on me on the day of her wedding that I was showing more cleavage than her. She knows that I always show cleavage, why would her wedding be a different story? Also she was mad that my makeup was better looking than hers.
27. Not Just a Day
My sister-in-law threw a massive fit because my other brother proposed to his girlfriend and they wanted to get married in the same year, but months apart (June vs December). She said it was her special year and didn’t want her attention taken, even though they waited 3 years to get married. My other brother ended up just waiting till January the next year.
26. They’re All Gone
A Bride yelled at me because I wasn’t inside the church at exactly 7:00 to do her makeup (I got lost getting to the church in the middle of nowhere with no GPS signal), but I was in the parking lot getting my kit out at 7:00. She called and gave me an earful.
Then while I was doing her makeup, she kept getting up to yell at her mom and sister about the groomsmen not having their shirts tucked in a whole hour before the ceremony. She told her mom she could leave if she didn’t want to listen to her yell, told her sister to go home since she “obviously” was jealous that she’s getting married. Everyone left me and her alone in the suite after that. No one answered her calls or texts, no one came back to dress her, no one wanted to be around her. I felt bad for her, so I helped her get her dress and shoes and veil on and walked her outside to the entrance of the church and promptly split.
25. Change the Date
My wife and I got married the same year as my sister-in-law and my brother wanted to. She flipped out and hate texted me like crazy. It even got to the point where my brother called me and begged me to change our wedding date because if we didn’t, she would leave him. We got married on schedule and they cancelled their wedding in Hawaii (original, huh?), but all the family still went lol. They ended up getting married 2 years later after 2 more attempts to get married. And as of right now, they’re separated and headed towards divorce. My family couldn’t be happier!
24. Like Mother, Like Daughter
Bridezilla kicked the groom’s sister out of the wedding because she had to wear a bra. Why? The sister was quite buxom and would fall out of the dress. She was very aware of this and was embarrassed. The bride and her mom dressed her down very verbally for 30 minutes and then kicked her out. The groom was not informed. The next day, they did it again in front of the whole wedding entourage, including the groom’s parents. Everyone agreed the bride and her mom were supreme jerks.
23. A Killable Offence
The bride at a family wedding tried to kill me because I wore a funky suit and tie. If I remember correctly, it was a grey/forest green striped suit. She claimed it didn’t go according to dress code. I do not remember a dress code being addressed. She grabbed her soon-to-be husband’s handgun from his glovebox and fired 4 shots at me. She was arrested because a bullet grazed my arm, and the wedding never happened because husband realized Bride was absolutely crazy. He bought me a new purple suit afterwards and we became best buds. Miss Crazy is still in prison after she attempted to start my apartment ablaze. I now have restraining order and such, but all I can do is laugh at the situation.
22. You’re Ruining My Shot
As the chef at a wedding venue for 4+ years, I saw every kind of bride there was and 99% are truly delightful people. That being said, none of us will ever forget one who still gets brought up as the ultimate bridezilla any of us had seen. She was a major type A+ from the start and asked us to measure straws to make sure that they fit in the water/soda glasses the way she wanted.
The worst thing about that whole wedding was that there was ZERO joy or fun when the wedding day finally arrived because it was all so choreographed. Her husband-to-be (who had threatened to not show up on the wedding day because of all of her crazy leading up to it) was instructed BY HER to buy and gift to her a specific strand of pearls.
The plan was that she would then open the gift in front of the photographer, while crying reading the accompanying letter. According to the photographer, she didn’t actually cry, so she just dabbed at her eyes, pretending to be overwhelmed with emotion at the “thoughtful” gift. She then proceeded to tell her mom she was a bad person because she was standing in the way of a photo.
The girl was just in it for the image of a beautiful, happy day, and didn’t care who she had to stomp on to make it happen.
21. How Dare You Not Speak
My sister caused a huge scene at her wedding dinner because I (the maid of honor) did not want to do a speech even though she knows I am deathly afraid of public speaking. I had nothing prepared, and it was never expressed to me that she wanted me to say something. I should also clarify that it was more of an informal wedding, and she was the maid of honor at my wedding and didn’t speak. It still hurts my feelings to this day that she was so mean to me in front of all those people. I care about people’s feeling and don’t want to ever make someone uncomfortable just for my benefit.
20. Turning on the Psycho
My brother’s wedding is still 11 months away and she already has everything booked and is being a psychopath about it. My brother asked her if I could be a bridesmaid because he wants me in their wedding. She said no because I hurt her feelings by not asking her to be my bridesmaid (they weren’t engaged then and she was still a teenager at the time). He said he’d have me be a female groomsman, and she said heck no. I think she’s super against my brother having a female groomsman because I had a male bridesmaid.
She booked an extremely large and expensive venue but had cut the guest list down to basically just immediate family because the caterer is paid per plate. My mom has a very large family and it would be hard to pick and choose who gets to be invited, so my mom asked if she could invite more and pay for their plates herself. The bride said yes, but she needed to have their plates paid for before they send out their save the date cards in August (the wedding is next May). My mom was like “Um…I’m not paying to invite them. I’ll pay when people RSVP.”
She’s also booked a DJ, but I don’t know who is going to be dancing because the wedding is going to be really small. Oh, and no alcohol because she doesn’t want her grandfather to think she drinks.
She keeps making jabs at my wedding, like she’s trying to compete with it. For example, at my wedding the groom and groomsmen all wore converse shoes. When they were discussing what the groomsmen should wear she busted out “Um…not tennis shoes! HAHAHAHA!”
We also catered BBQ at our wedding because my husband is from KC and he wanted that as sort of a nod to his roots. When they asked what kind of food she wanted it was, “Not BBQ! HAHAHAHA!”
My stepmom has connections to everything wedding-related because she’s a hairstylist and can get amazing deals. She’s refusing to use the same stylist, florist, baker, etc. My best friend and my maid of honor is also a wedding planner and offered to be their planner for free as her gift to them, and she refused. Oh, and I do makeup and she doesn’t want me to do her makeup, though it’d be free.
19. Bezerker Bride
Two days before my cousin’s wedding, the typically bashful bride-to-be hulked out and began screaming at her wedding planner till she cried. Why? because the centerpieces were the wrong color of flower she ordered.
18. Nothing’s More Important Than Me
I had a bride walk into the bridal salon where I worked to pick up her wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses, etc. She was in a bad mood and proceeded to tell me and my co-workers why. “I am SO ticked off one of my bridesmaids won’t be able to attend my wedding” (it was the day before her wedding). All of us answered “why?!” Super concerned. She said, “her brother got in a car accident or something and ended up killing someone.” She then proceeded to roll her eyes and said, “I can’t believe she would drop out of my wedding for that!”
All of our mouths were on the floor.
17. Grow Them in This Color!
My friend is a florist and bridezilla came to her for wedding flowers. She wanted her bouquet and the table arrangements to be a certain color and a certain flower. When my florist friend (FF) informed her that that particular flower does not grow in that color, the bride replied that there was plenty of time before the wedding to grow the flowers in that color.
FF said if she wanted that color, it would have to be a different flower. (I believe dyeing was not an option because of the kind of flower, but I’m not sure). After much explanation, FF finally convinced the bride that if she wanted that color, there was a much better flower available. The order was signed and paid for.
The day of the wedding, FF and her assistants bring the flowers to the wedding/reception venue, set up the floral centerpieces on the tables, get everything approved by the groom, wedding planner, and manager of the wedding venue.
About an hour later, the bride called FF screaming that the flowers are not the ones she wanted and to come back and fix them. FF checked the order to make sure and it was correct. FF drove back to the venue and saw flowers strewn all over the parking lot. They were the flowers that the bride had agreed to. FF turned her car around and went back to her shop and ignored the bride’s calls.
16. Why Are These People Here?
I saw a woman in a wedding dress screaming about all these crazy freaks being at her wedding. She had scheduled her wedding at the same hotel as Acen that year, which is one of the largest anime conventions in the country. She was not happy and seemed to think that the hotel was hers and her guests’ for the weekend.
15. It Costs How Much?
One of my close friends is getting married this weekend on Saturday…and she’s become a bridezilla.
At first, she was easy-going. I’m not going to be one of “those” brides, she says. But she evolved from asking us to pay for our dress (a normal, understandable thing) to now paying $100 to have our hair in a basic up-do and another $100 for makeup. I have to pay $200 on her wedding day if I want to be a bridesmaid. Which, of course, doesn’t include the $200 I already spent on the dress, shoes, and her gift.
Seriously, $400 dollars!? I’m right out of college, you have to be kidding me!
14. Just Cut to the Party
Photographer here. The worst one I dealt with didn’t really seem to care about her wedding at all. She was in a hurry to rush through their pictures and get in the party bus they had rented for between the ceremony and reception.
She made the entire guest list sit and wait to eat while she and her new husband and bridal party spent two hours getting so drunk they could barely walk in the door of the reception hall.
Once they got there, two of the bridesmaids had puked on each other and their dresses were a mess. She waited until we were doing the pictures to ask me if I could edit her maid of honor’s breast tattoos out of the pictures, despite having chosen low cut gowns for her girls that accented all of their boobs.
The friend was not happy.
I took the opportunity while they were eating to use the bathroom as it’s generally considered rude to snap photos of people with their mouths full of food. Not two minutes later, she sent one of her puke-stained girls in to knock on the stall door and tell me to hurry up because she remembered another pose she wanted to do in her pictures…while I was peeing.
13. Pitching a Fit
Hub’s cousin. Her dress cost more than our wedding. Her wedding, all told, could have bought a respectable home for the young couple. The honeymoon could have bought a nice new car.
If you’ve got the money for a wedding like that, great, but she didn’t. She just pitched tantrums until her parents and her fiancé went into MASSIVE debt for it.
But the moment that really sealed it for me was when she barred certain family members from being in her family wedding photo because they weren’t dressed fancy enough or because they hadn’t brought a gift to the wedding. There was both an engagement party AND a wedding shower, and apparently we were supposed to bring gifts to each.
12. Out of Order Cake
The Bride got mad that her Victoria Sponge wedding cake was assembled wrong. It went, from bottom up, sponge, cream, jam, sponge, icing/decorations. It should have gone sponge, jam, cream, sponge, icing/decorations.
I understand that a wedding cake is a crucially important item at the wedding and it needs to be perfect. However, this cake was beautifully decorated, tasted great, and had neither missing nor extra ingredients.
11. They’re Wilting
Florist here. Today I spoke with a very angry bride for half an hour on the phone because she was extremely unhappy that her bouquet of delicate flowers would not hold up for her 4+ hour outdoor photoshoot in 90° heat prior to her (also outdoor) ceremony.
10. Private View
I used to work at a very pricy wedding venue in Massachusetts. It was right on the ocean and had beautiful views. The bride insisted that during the ceremony she and her future husband must be the only two that can see the water because it was her special day.
9. But I Want It There
It was an outdoor wedding and the couple had a kiddie pool filled with ice to put water bottles in. (It was painted nicely). An hour before guests were to arrive, the bride wanted the bottles and ice out in the 90° weather. Everyone was against her putting it out until just before guests arrive, but she screamed and screamed at her dad until he went to go buy the bag of ice early. It melted and they had to go again.
The cake was also being decorated on site, and the decorator had the cake in the shade. Well the bride wanted the cake as the center piece in the middle of the patio, in direct sunlight. There was a half hour long war of the bride and the cake decorator moving the cake in and out of the shade while setting up. Finally, the decorator snapped at her asking if she wanted her cake to look like a lumpy pile, and the bride snapped back.
They also brought the wrong table cloths, square not circle. They were upfront about it and said the correct ones will be there in 20 minutes. Bride lost her mind and was screaming at them. The wedding didn’t start for another two hours.
During the mother-groom dance, she tapped the DJ on the shoulder and told him to make this one short.
8. Burning It up
My cousin got married last April and I only went because my parents were going, and I had nothing better to do that weekend (also, free bar). I got to watch her set her bouquet, the white carpet, and the groom’s pants on fire mid-ceremony because he had spiked his hair wrong. The best part was that the minister just kept reading the vows as it all went down. Eventually they got it all under control and the two said their I Dos.
The divorce finalized a couple days ago.
7. Band-Aid Those Boobs
I was in a wedding and doing hair/makeup for the gals. I was doing a run through with one of the girls, and the bride came in to “inspect” our progress. The bridesmaid looked great and none of the other people in the room had anything bad to say. The bride looked over the girl, pointed at her cleavage and said: “Can we do anything about THAT?” I was confused at first, but then she started jumping up and down screaming about how her wedding was ruined because of boobs. No one could control this. She demanded that I put Band-Aids on the girl’s boobs to hide “it,” claiming it wasn’t Christian for her to have ANY cleavage in her wedding. I was laughing so hard that I couldn’t oblige and was met with yet another fit of rage.
I pulled my tank top down and flashed her, saying that what I had was as nice as the other bridesmaid and told her to shut up and deal. (I was doing makeup and hair as a courtesy because she couldn’t afford what I would normally charge). Her mom told her to shut up and she stormed off to her room. We all had a good laugh and went for pizza. I still did the wedding, and the boobs looked good when the bridesmaids were standing at the altar.
6. Don’t Play That Funky Music
I play in a wedding band in Utah.
The biggest bridezilla moment for me was when we got the request at the beginning of the party to NOT play any music by James Brown. We played a funk set that transitioned from one song to the next, but the last song of the set was “Cold Sweat.” Our bass player/leader forgot to tell a few members of the band that we were cutting “Cold Sweat,” so they played it and the majority of the wedding party starts booing the band, the bride rushes up to us and starts screaming until she is red in the face.
No explanation was given as to why she didn’t want James Brown played, but it was odd to say the least.
5. Switch Them Around
I used to waitress at weddings. I had a bride have a meltdown once because the pink candles and white candles were in the wrong order in her big expensive lanterns. We had to run around and change them.
4. Well of Course They’re Hideous
The bride asked me what color her bridesmaids should wear (I was one). I told her that given all five of us were redheads, a pale, pastel lilac is the only color that should be avoided, as it makes us look dead. Guess what dresses she picked? Floor length silk, pastel lilac. I assumed she’d forgot. Her sweet husband later told me, completely nonplussed, that of course the bride has to put bridesmaids in awful dresses because she had to be the prettiest on the day.
3. You Should Be Happy for Me
The bride spent weeks crying to my sister and I that “No one is happy enough that we’re getting married!” She literally wanted us to call her once a week and tell her how happy we were that she was getting hitched, and how lucky we felt to be in her wedding party.
When we went bridesmaid dress shopping, she broke down crying when we chose the less expensive dress and accused us all of trying to ruin her big day by making ourselves uglier. Yes, uglier. The next day, she called me to tell me I was out of the wedding party because I just wasn’t the kind of person she wanted in her wedding. You know, after we bought the dresses.
She then invited other people to take my and my sister’s place in her wedding party, with the expectation that she’d be able to give them the dresses we’d paid for. She called, screaming that I had ruined EVERYTHING because when she went to pick up her bridesmaids dresses she was two short. I had called and cancelled the order and gotten a refund.
2. I’m Taking This, OK?
When my old babysitter was prepping for her wedding, she hired someone to decorate and design her wedding. That person got one tiny detail wrong and was fired on the spot. This meant that the babysitter took over and went completely nuclear on everyone.
I came home from school one day to find out that she’d stormed over to our place, asked to borrow the canopy that hung over my bed, and without getting a yes, dismantled it and took it to the venue. I never saw it again. Last I heard, she ripped it when she was taking the decorations down because she had stapled the mesh into the wood paneling.
1. How Dare They Not Come
One day after her wedding, a friend I went to school with went on a rampage on Facebook about how none of her friends showed up to her big day, and the ones that did show up didn’t dance or participate in anything at the reception. She blasted everyone and made her wedding party feel bad because she spent too much money on unnecessary things that no one used (mainly the photo booth and tons of rented costumes and accessories to use in the booth).
She made a second post an hour later complaining about all of the people that stopped her to take pictures and didn’t let her enjoy her party. It was hilarious to watch the comments flood in from people who went and were angry, and a few requested their gifts back.
The kicker here is that a former classmate, someone who has a lot of mutual friends with the bride, lost his infant son earlier that week and the baby’s services fell on the same day as the wedding. Most of the people she was complaining about for not coming had opted to go to the child’s funeral service instead of her wedding. She lost a lot of respect and a lot of friends in two hours.