Having a crush on someone can cloud one’s judgment and render one incapable of seeing any flaws in the object of their desire—no matter how obvious those flaws may be to everyone else. For this reason, those rare breakthrough moments that finally allow people to realize that their crushes aren’t really all that they’re cracked up to be can be quite memorable, and in some cases even life-changing. Here are examples of the awful, unforgettable moments that caused people to finally lose their crushes.
42. Not What You Expected
I had a crush on this one girl for pretty much all of high school. I was never able to make anything come of my feelings and I eventually ended up going to my senior prom solo. One of this girl’s friends was also there alone. I danced with the friend for most of the night and had a lot of fun. Eventually, we did the whole swap partners thing for a dance and I found myself suddenly dancing with my crush.
Garth Brooks’ “The Dance” was playing and everything was exactly how I had always imagined a perfect moment to probably be like. Then, all of a sudden, as I was looking into her eyes, I realized that I had built her up in my mind to be more than she actually was. My feelings for her died right then and there after four full years of inner torment and desire. Ironic, isn’t it? And no, I didn’t end up getting with the friend and I’m still socially awkward to this day.
2. All Except for One
A dude was trying to make me jealous by saying something along the lines of “I can’t be ‘just friends’ with girls, they all have crushes on me!” I stopped crushing on him out of spite right then and there.
3. Turning Her Inside Out
I stopped liking my crush when I spent a little more time around her and started to realize that she was a legitimately mean person. Like, she was just really cruel in the way she treated other people. In my eyes, she went from really hot to not looking very good at all faster than you can even imagine. One of my friends ended up dating her and I just could never see anything even remotely attractive in her anytime I saw them. She became what my friends call “Ugly Hot”—as in, she’s so ugly on the inside that it affects the way people perceive her physically as well.
4. A Good Old-Fashioned Game of Phone Tag
There was this woman who I thought I had been getting along with really well. One day, she gives me her number and asks me out for that weekend. Great news, right? I call her later that day and she doesn’t answer the phone or text me back. Then, she sees me a couple of days later and apologizes, explaining that she just doesn’t check her phone very much.
I confirm that we still have plans for the upcoming weekend and she says yes. When the big day finally arrives, I show up all excited to meet her for the date. She is nowhere to be found. I call her phone several times and she doesn’t answer. After a while, I eventually leave and accept the fact that I’ve been stood up.
The next day, I see her again and she apologizes profusely, stating that something had come up at the last minute and that she wasn’t able to get in touch with me in time. I give her the benefit of the doubt and we make plans again for a few days later. I call again before we’re supposed to meet up. However, this time I decide to add a bit of a twist.
I call from my other phone, which was a number she didn’t have or know. Amazingly, now she answers! I say who it is and she hangs up on me. Crush over.
5. It’ll Cost Him an Arm and a Leg to Get Over This
I have noticeable scars on my legs from an autoimmune disease, and I had a very big crush on a guy who had recently transferred to my college during the fall semester. We had been spending a lot of time together, until spring came around and everything changed. What happened was that on the first hot day of the year, I wore a pair of shorts and my crush saw the scars on my legs for the very first time.
When he noticed them, he reacted by literally leaping four seats back from me in disgust. All of my feelings for him were instantly gone and I never spoke to him again in my life.
6. Table for Two, Dinner for One
Me and the guy I had a crush on for the longest time finally went out together for a dinner date one night. I ended up spending most of the time at the restaurant by myself while he stayed in the bathroom feeling like trash because, unbeknownst to me at the time, he had apparently been suffering from withdrawal problems due to oxycodone painkiller addiction.
I guess someone had brought him some or something while he was in there, because he came back all of a sudden after a long time—now feeling great. He invited me back to his place and stupid me agreed to go along, but I almost immediately regretted it and realized that my feelings for him were now gone.
7. Beggars Can Be Choosers—But Not Without a Cost
In my case, the person was my girlfriend. She had been searching for a job for over two months. All the while, I had helped support her in every way as she endured the long and difficult process of unemployment and a job hunt. Then, when she finally received a pretty solid job offer, she turned it down because she felt that her interviewer was rude to her.
By rude, she meant that the interviewer was upset that she had shown up more than 20 minutes late for the interview. This incident and the way she handled it honestly just opened up my eyes to both her immaturity and to how little she was appreciating all that I was doing for her. I broke up with her shortly after.
8. The Bus Is Alive With the Sound of Music
Them: Hey, let me show you this song I think you’ll like!
Me: (Goes and puts on headphones)
Them: (Plays entirety of song out loud on a speaker at an extremely high volume while we are on a public bus)
That was all it took for me to lose interest.
9. All Fluff and No Substance Makes Jill a Dull Girl
When you really like someone, it’s very easy to dismiss the things that would be obvious red flags under any other circumstances. My worst crush of all time was a vague kind of girl, always posting ambiguous romanticized crap on social media like one of those Tumblr love quotes. On our first date, all she talked about was her online admirers.
At one point, she told me not to worry about them. I hadn’t been worried at all, and had no reason to even care—they all seemed pathetic and had her on a pedestal as their hero. Then I realized that she had nothing going for her in her life. She still lived with her parents, had no clear life goals, no burning passions that showed, no interesting hobbies, was failing her studies, and didn’t even seem to be trying.
This realization just hit me all at once like a ton of bricks, and my feelings for her suddenly changed. It was as if a huge veil was suddenly lifted away that had been covering my eyes for the entire time I had been interested in her romantically. They say that a pretty face is enough to get a guy hooked because that’s all that really matters to guys in the end.
I would say that that statement is not fully true without one particular caveat—quality guys who are serious, self-respecting individuals will only put up with nonsense for so long before they nope right outta there if the girl doesn’t have anything else to back her good looks up with.
10. Around the World in 80 Minutes
There was a woman I went on a date with who I thought I was really starting to like. To give a little bit of context, this girl was a friend of a friend, and she seemed really chill and very put together. She had just recently gone through a divorce, but she seemed to be handling it really well. Initially, she impressed the hell out of me.
So, I ask her out and we make plans to go grab a coffee. When the day arrives, she shows up with her kid, who is about 8 years old. The kid basically just sits there covering his ears through the whole conversation. We start talking and the more we talk, the more I realize that she is super, SUPER insecure about everything and has almost no self-confidence.
Her husband had apparently spoiled the hell out of her. He had provided for her every physical and emotional need and, now that he was gone, she didn’t know what to do other than look for another guy who might be willing to take care of her in the same way he did. The topper was when she told me about how she was hoping to find an “old-fashioned” man—as in the kind who would pull her chairs out for her, take her out to really high-end restaurants, pay for the whole bill wherever she went, and whisk her off to foreign cities on a regular basis to stay in fancy, uber-expensive hotels.
I’d say right about that point was when my initial feeling towards her disappeared pretty abruptly. I was definitely not down to be used by someone like that, to fill some void in her life and spoil her like crazy when we had only just met. Honestly, I was pretty mad about all this in the moment, but now I look back and I just feel bad for her.
She put up with all kinds of crap from her husband—years of lies and cheating on her—and he still ended up leaving her in the end. But I guess that’s what happens when you outsource your sense of self to someone else.
11. An Unhappy Ending
After a failure of a date, the guy I had liked up till that point attempted to make out with me and eventually ended up climbing on top of me against my will. I was so not into it that I started telling him no and pushing him off, but he just started to fight me and kept angrily trying to persuade me to change my mind by saying “Come on, I’ve been waiting for this for a long time!”
Eventually, I started shouting “No!” even louder, until he finally just gave up and let me go. He was very pissed, so I just grabbed my things and left. Let’s just say there was no second date…
12. A Year to Build Up, One Sentence to Dismantle
For over a year, I was heavily flirting on and off with this dude I had met at a party. We were both really attracted to each other and went on several dates, all of which were great. I really think we had a genuinely deep connection with one another. Nevertheless, we were just casually dating here and there, rather than seeing each other more seriously on a regular basis.
After our last date, I went back to his place and we started heavily making out on his bed. We were ready to start doing the deed when I asked him if he had a condom, to which he replied, “Nah, we won’t be needing one tonight! I had an STI a few weeks ago and I just finished getting it all handled!” What proceeded was the fastest 180 I ever did in my life. I got the heck out of there as fast as I possibly could and never looked back. Sorry, but I don’t mess around with diseases, bud.
13. Praying for Better Judgment Next Time
I went to a fairly large college in a Bible Belt town. There was this student group on campus called Christ’s Ambassadors, whose members would all wear matching shirts on Wednesdays. They would often hand out mini-Bibles to students on campus, and tell them that they were all going to hell. Let’s just say that this group did not quite represent my personal values.
That same year, I had a huge crush on this beautiful guy in one of my classes. Then, one Wednesday, he walked into lecture wearing one of those darn Christ’s Ambassadors shirts and my heart literally broke in half on the spot. In an interesting plot twist, though, a pretty good friend of mine ended up marrying him and he turned out to be extremely physically abusive.
Needless to say, that fact has helped to quell the remainder of my crush quite a bit as well. Thankfully, my friend has since gotten out of that marriage and is now perfectly safe and sound.
14. Like Father, Like Daughter?
I know this may sound a little unfair, but for me it was getting to know the girl’s family that made me lost my crush on her. To give some context, I had this insane vegan girlfriend with a mentally unstable sister. I had no idea why this sister always seemed to act so rudely towards me, and when I asked about it I was told that it was because “She didn’t want me to think we were friends.”
Her mom was very nice, but her dad didn’t like me because he thought some of my mannerisms were weird. Sorry for being high functioning autistic, but there isn’t really anything I can do about that. As if that wasn’t enough already, the family was also obsessed with pets. They had 13 cats, three birds, and two dogs. They also believed in ghosts and would all sleep in the same bed whenever they thought the ghosts in their house were being extra uppity.
As soon as I came to realize that they were the weird ones and not me, my feelings for the girl just started to disappear.
15. From First to Worst
The girl I liked asked me out in front of a bunch of her friends who all knew that I was mega into her.
They seemed to enjoy seeing my excitement as I responded, “Heck yeah! Are you serious?” Some of the friends then started to giggle. I was suddenly so nervous that my head felt like it was about to pop off and blast up like a rocket. Then she said “HECK NO! HAHAHAHA!!” Just like that, I was crushed and I instantly started to despise this girl with a passion. All of her friends soon joined in on the fun, letting out a joint “HAHAHA!!” in unison with hers. I got over this incident eventually. Well, kind of…
16. Who Can Really Define True Greatness?
I started to lose respect for my crush when he started to constantly talk to me about how great he was and how much better he is than all the other boys around. Unsurprisingly, he turned out to be the type of person who really only cared about himself. Oh, and by the way, he was not actually that great, nor was he better than everyone else around like he made himself out to be. Just sayin’!
17. But Words Will Always Hurt Me
When I was in third grade, I had a crush on an older boy who was already in middle school. Then one day I heard him say a bad word, and 7-year-old me could never forgive him. My crush disappeared instantly. In case you’re wondering, the word was crap. I definitely dodged a bullet on that one!
18. Tooning Out of This Call
I was fixed up with a guy that I never knew too well to begin with. The first time we really talked was when we spoke on the phone for three hours. He kept quoting the cartoon Naruto and said he was striving for the best in his life because “that’s his nindo way”. He must have said this line at least 10 times, along with many other random quotes from the show.
After a while, it was getting really annoying. So, as lightheartedly as I could, I made a rule that neither of us could quote anyone else from that show or elsewhere from this point on, and we would both have to stick to only original thoughts for the rest of the call. He literally struggled and could barely think of anything to say. It became too much for me to handle and I lost interest.
19. Saving the Best for Last
Back in college, I had a really big crush on this guy from my class who was very into magic. After thinking about it for a while, I decided that the perfect way to get on his good side would be to surprise him and attend one of his magic shows. So, that very evening, I went to see him perform at a college event. I was pretty impressed with his skills—that is, until he got to the grand finale. His last trick involved him taking his pants off on stage and literally pulling a card out of his butthole. There were toilet paper remnants visible. I disappeared from that theater real fast!
20. I Guess She Walked Right Into That One…
I had a huge crush on this one girl for a really long time when I was young, and in my eyes she could do no wrong. That is, until the day I was talking to her and she decided to start speaking badly about someone we both knew because she saw them with crutches. This person was on the crutches after having sprained their ankle falling on a trampoline.
Despite this, my crush made fun of them and even went as far as to seriously claim that they were just doing this all for attention and were not actually hurt that bad. There was no way I could let that kind of disgusting behavior slide. Seriously, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!
21. How to Muddy the Waters
Back when I was a teenager, my friends and I used to often go on dates as a group. It was a pretty common thing to do in my social circles at the time. Anyway, there was this girl who I had liked a lot for a pretty long time, so when I finally mustered up the courage to ask her out, I brought her along on one of these group dates.
As we were all walking down the street together on the way to where we were going, the girl slipped and fell in some mud. Now, the correct thing for that girl’s date to do in that situation would be to help her out and make sure she’s okay, right? Not for this immature teenager! My only thoughts as I watched it happen were how unattractive she looked with mud all over her and how I didn’t think I liked her anymore.
Not only did I fail to come to her aid in her moment of need, but I also ended up basically ignoring her for the rest of the day and just talking to my friends instead to avoid the potential second-hand embarrassment. I feel pretty mean about my behavior in hindsight, but at the time I felt it was totally justified because the mud was a massive turn off.
22. Getting to Know All About You
What ended my romantic feelings towards my crush? I actually spoke to them for once! It turned out that, although they are definitely a great person, they were just not even half as interesting as I imagined them to have been in my head. It’s funny how we do that, isn’t it? We build things up in our imaginations to be just the way we want them to be, and meanwhile, we don’t even really know those things at all. In this case, it was my crush that I did this to, but it could be done to almost anything or anyone. Oh well, life goes on!
23. The Best Fish in the Sea
My boyfriend would constantly insult all kinds of things he knew I liked, and would also constantly tell me how much better he felt his opinion was than mine or anyone else’s. You seriously have to ask yourself what makes a person feel the need to act like that, as if they just need everyone to know exactly how much better they feel they are than all the rest.
Definitely not boyfriend material in my book, and hopefully not in yours either. Despite what they would have you think, there are definitely way better people out there!
24. This Relationship’s Diagnosis: Negative
I stopped liking the person I was interested in when she started endlessly spewing crazy and unscientific conspiracy theories about how vaccines cause autism. Don’t believe everything you read on the internet, people! You’ll become that girl!
25. Swimming Against the Current
I stopped having a crush on a guy when I discovered that he enjoyed picking on my slightly autistic classmate. We were all in high school and he was a year older. He was a star breaststroker on my summer swim league team. I’ve always thought that swimmer guys were cute, and I first started to develop feelings for him during those swimming sessions.
The crush lasted a few years until we wound up both on the same high school swim team. Then one day he started mocking my classmate right in front of me. It was nothing blatant that could be concretely classified as bullying, but it was clearly condescending and insensitive. To this day, I still can’t look at him without thinking about that behavior.
He’s still considered the perfect young man in the eyes of our community, but it’s how you treat those who cannot defend themselves that truly defines who you are as far as I’m concerned.
26. Good Intentions, Bad Result
I lost my feelings for my crush when he asked me if my family had considered looking into essential oils and vitamins as a cure for my dad’s stage IV cancer. I appreciate the thought and I know he meant well, but I could tell in that moment that he and I just fundamentally don’t view the world the same way and, as a result, it could just never work in the long run.
27. Sounds Like True Love to Me!
The moment that I first laid eyes on the girl who would become my wife was the precise moment when every single previous crush I’ve ever had disappeared forever—even the ones I could never seem to get over up till that point.
28. You Make Me Feel So Young
In my case, I was the victim of the instant change of heart, unfortunately. Back in the good old days of kindergarten, I used to often get chased around the class and kissed when caught by this one girl who I used to play with all the time. She had admitted at one point to having had a crush on me—whatever that means when you’re in kindergarten—and innocent little me thought that it was a pretty cool and interesting development.
Then one day, I had a little accident. My face got crushed into the asphalt and I ended up with scabs all over my forehead. When the girl in question saw me in this condition at school the next day, she reacted by pointing at my face as she shouted out: “Eeewww, what’s that on your face? I don’t have a crush on you anymore!” She was crazy. Girls were icky. I have never been happier to have a bloody face.
29. Food Fight
What turned me off of my crush was the way that she chewed food. Sounds shallow, I know, but it was just not something that I wanted to have to hear for the rest of my life. That, and that she snacked on ketchup packets. She even kept a stash of them in her glove box. She would just tear one open after another and suck them down. Whole lotta nope!
30. A Little Self-Reflection Can Go a Long Way
When I was a young lad, there was a girl who I had a huge crush on. After trying for a while, I was finally able to take her out on a date one evening. Now, this girl really liked to talk about herself—you can almost say it was one of her favorite pastimes. I am personally more of the listener type to begin with, so I did not think that this would be an issue for our potential relationship.
During one such self-praise session at our date, she said something along the lines of “I don’t know why, but everyone just keeps ending up having a crush or me, some of them even end up thinking they’re in love!” I immediately thought to myself “Do I seriously want to listen to nonsense like this all the time?” The voice inside my head came back at me and said something like “Bro, you don’t even tolerate nonsense that’s half this crazy from your family, are you really even asking that question?” And that was the end of that association!
31. Scroll on If You Dare
I had a huge crush on this one girl in my college English class back in my younger days. She was a bit religious and I wasn’t, but she didn’t talk about it too much so I didn’t mind. We used to talk all the time and we even did a few projects together. Then I found out that she was no longer dating this guy she had been with for a while, so I decided to try and pursue her myself.
However, when I looked her up on Facebook, I found a whole bunch of weird posts she had made encouraging racism and violence against certain minority groups, as well as a post about how all of the school shootings in America have been happening because we no longer allow religion to be taught in schools. It took a few more scrolls to get to the homophobic stuff that I just knew would also be there at this point. Let’s just say that these discoveries were a major turn off and disappointment.
32. Smell Ya Later!
I lost my feelings for a guy when I caught a whiff of his breath one morning. It took me out at the knees, and definitely not in a positive way!
33. Well, Look Who Decided to Show up
I had met this girl at a bar and we hit it off. We were making out and all was good. I got her number and we agreed to meet up later. I set up a date with her for a few days later and an hour before the date she canceled on me. A week later, we set up another date and she canceled that one as well just a few days before. At this point, I’m not about to waste any more time and I’m done.
Well, a couple of weeks later, she calls me and says that she is going back with her friends in a few hours to the same bar we met at and that she wants to see me. I say sure, so she asks me to text her before I leave for the bar. I text her and tell her that I’m on my way, and she says that she is too tired to go and is deciding to not go after all. I decide to say screw it and I just go by myself.
Well, guess who I saw show up at the bar a couple hours later with her friends, just having a blast! That was when I instantly lost all interest in her. I sent her a text message calling her out on her BS and informing her that she was a piece of crap. I then blocked and deleted her number. I have not been back to that bar or heard from her since. Here is the really funny bit, though.
That first night, she said that the only reason she didn’t want to go home with me was that I seemed like a ladies’ man and like I probably took lots of girls home with me constantly. The truth is that I was a virgin at the time, but I had just lost a ton of weight and I was finally comfortable with my body and approaching women as a result. I guess I just overshot my confidence this time. Oh well, live and learn!
34. How to Mutilate Your Reputation
I saw my crush arguing with someone over the topic of female genital mutilation practices that take place in other parts of the world. I know you’re hoping he was the one on the right side of this issue. Sadly, he was not. He was trying to defend the idea that mutilating a young girl’s body against her will is perfectly justified. I mean, wow was that a fast crush-kill.
35. This Smells Like the End of a Beautiful Relationship
There was this girl in my office who I thought was cute and had a really big crush on for a very long time. Then one day, I was passing her in the hallway and she crop-dusted me. For those who don’t know, crop-dusting is when someone farts as they walk by you, leaving the remnants of the smell and sound behind as a souvenir.
Needless to say, I pretty much lost all my attraction to her at once when that happened. She was definitely not the one for me!
36. Preparing for All Possible Futures
My first text conversation with my former crush was what made me lose interest in her. The conversation was full of the “I’m so random” kind of humor, but it was just a little too weird for my tastes. It went sorta like this:
Her: Heyy 🙂
Me: Hey, what’s up!
Her: Nothing much, I’m just eating some juicy bread with my friend!
Me: What is juicy bread?
Her: Yea, it’s this type of bread that you eat behind a dumpster during the apocalypse.
Me: I see…
Her: BUT, you have to eat it before the cowboy rides up on his unicorn.
I think I broke my teeth from clenching my jaw on that last one.
37. Peeping Tom
When I was 9 or 10 years old, I had a huge crush on a boy in my class. We played violin together, and he gave me chocolate—very romantic for 9-year-olds. Then I caught him peeking into the girl’s change room. I couldn’t avoid seeing him as a creep from that point on. To this day, I am still very disappointed by the incident.
38. Man’s Best Friend Was This Girl’s Worst Nightmare
I was really into this girl from my high school until the moment she decided that she was going to have her dog put down before she left for college because she didn’t believe that anybody in her family could take care of him as well as she always did. It was an English sheepdog and, somehow, this girl did not see any of the irony or absurdity in what she was doing.
Of course, it was probably hard for her to understand my attempts to explain it as I was pretty much incoherently screaming in her face the whole time. I literally did not know how else I could possibly react to something that outrageously stupid and sad. And for the record, the girl did, unfortunately, go through with this plan in the end. RIP little critter, I sure hope you’re in a better place now!
39. That Is One Strange Hobby…
There was a girl in my class who I had an obvious crush on when I was in high school. I finally asked her out one day and she just ignored me. I did not stop liking her though, and still held out hope that she would change her mind eventually. About two months later, we were both sitting in English class studying Romeo and Juliet. The teacher gave us all some group work that we had to do involving acting out different parts of the play.
The scene we had to act out was the one where Romeo gets rejected by the girl he was into at the beginning of the story, Rosaline. While all of the groups were hard at work, I overheard my crush saying to her project partners that she really wanted to play Rosaline in their skit. I then heard her say to her friend “I like rejecting guys, it’s so much fun!” Umm, excuse me??
I couldn’t believe my ears and I instantly lost all respect and feelings for her. What kind of a cruel psychopath do you have to be to actually enjoy hurting other people’s feelings?
40. When the Internet Meets Real Life
I really liked this guy and was hoping to make something happen with him. As things started to progress, my curiosity led me to start checking out his social media accounts to see what kind of stuff he had on there. I discovered that his Facebook profile had a photo album specifically designated for posting photos of hot bikini models in on a regular basis, and I found that pretty weird.
Then I started reading his bio and comments and other stuff—whatever I could find. The way he wrote online made him come across like an immature and awkward 12-year-old boy, even though we were both grown adults at the time. He even used a lot of emojis in all of his writing. Seeing this instantly killed my feelings for him and I could not ever see him the same way again from this point on.
41. May God Have Mercy on Your Soul
He interrupted something I was saying during a perfectly lovely date because he said he had to tell me about something serious. My reaction, naturally, was “Of course! Go ahead!” That “something serious” turned out to be a monologue about his personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I am not a religious person and I am not interested in dating anyone with different values than me, so I knew right away that I was no longer interested.
I interrupted his speech at about the 10-minute mark and let him know that we should just end things between us because we were incompatible. His whole face changed into a terrifying expression and he decided to spend the next half hour trying to save my soul from damnation. The night ended with me literally running down the street while he chased after me screaming about the power of Christ’s everlasting love. We’re both dudes, by the way. And we had already slept together.
42. Bad Sense of Humor
I had a big crush on this one girl from my school, and she was definitely aware of my feelings. She seems to have felt the same way about me, as she decided one day she was going to do something to try and impress me. What did she decide to do to try and impress me, you ask? She went up to a smaller kid and started making fun of them right in front of me, then looked over at me for approval.
What she didn’t realize was that this smaller kid she had picked out for ridicule was actually my little sister. I guess she didn’t know that we were related because we have two different last names. What she did would have been bad enough if she had been making fun of any kid, but there was definitely no way I could ever view her the same again after witnessing this particular incident go down.